Women may be able to become mothers at older ages these days — whether through biological pregnancy or surrogacy — but that still doesn’t mean it’s the easiest road.
Take it from Pam Andras, a now 59-year-old New York-based interior designer, wife and mother of three who recently opened up publicly about her guilt at how “hellishly hard” it was to become a third-time “geriatric” mom at the age of 54 through surrogacy — a struggle that later led her to develop a drinking problem.
“The fact that I did not instantly bond with a son I didn’t carry felt like the ultimate taboo,” Andras told Susanna Galton of The Telegraph. “I was so consumed by guilt and shame, along with a lot of resentment towards my poor husband, that along the way I picked up a nasty wine habit that needed to be kicked.”
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