DEAR ABBY: I have been married 44 years and have always slept in the same bed with my wife. Last week, I caught a virus, and we decided that I would sleep in the spare bedroom until it was gone. I have now discovered I sleep better by myself, and I enjoy the freedom of the bed. How do I tell my wife I’d prefer sleeping alone? I love her to death, but I really like my freedom in bed. — SLEEPING FOR ONE IN WISCONSIN
DEAR SLEEPING: Couples sleep apart for many reasons — and it doesn’t signal that there is anything wrong with the marriage. Tell your wife what a restful and restorative sleep you had in the spare room (“the best you’ve had in years”). A good night’s sleep is imperative for good health. Then explain that it’s nothing personal, but you would like to continue sleeping solo.
Don’t be surprised if she then tells you that she, too, slept better not having to share the bed. However, if she isn’t receptive, perhaps two beds in your main bedroom would work for the two of you.
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