DEAR ABBY: My adult daughter wants to confide (complain) to me about her husband — his quirky behavior, things he does that she doesn’t like, etc. — nothing heavy or abusive. I have told her that I think it’s inappropriate for her to talk to me about him, unfair to me and bad for the ongoing relationship I have with him.
Instead, she’s confiding in my husband. I have told them both that maybe she should talk to her friends and therapist, since she has one. She responded: “All of my friends talk to their parents about their husbands and get their advice. Usually, they talk to their moms, but since you won’t listen, I talk to Dad.”
Am I wrong in thinking that a wife’s strongest relationship should be with her husband, and that it is disloyal to speak to her parents about nonthreatening aggravations? I never spoke to my parents about my marriage, though there was plenty I could have shared! Have the rules changed? — HEAR NO EVIL
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