DEAR ABBY: When my ex-wife died recently, she left our two children (in their 20s and 30s) a home that was in her name. My son has a good job; my daughter works periodically as a model. Losing her devastated both of them. The home she left them is not only in bad shape but also needs repairs and zoning and permitting updates.
I earn a good living and recently won a personal injury lawsuit. I have been helping my kids by supporting them over the past few months because their emotional loss has taken them out of commission for a while. I have contributed tens of thousands of dollars toward their home, as well as helped out with rent and living expenses.
My girlfriend, who I have lived with for many years, has now gone ballistic, screaming at me for spending what should be “our future retirement money” on them. She condemns me for supporting them, not making them “make it on their own” and “How dare I think of them and not ‘us.’” She and my kids have never gotten along. She has always been resentful and angry about any attention I give them and has accused me of “spoiling” them when I have helped in the past.
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