DEAR ABBY: My husband and I had two sons, “Seth” and “Jason,” who were best buddies. Seth passed away a year and a half ago, which has been really hard on us all, but especially on Jason. He’s now 17 and in high school. He’s doing OK, but he is still sort of listless and keeps to himself a lot.
My sister’s son, “Matt,” was the same age as Seth. She suggested he come stay with us on school breaks as company and a role model for Jason. She dotes on Matt and implies it’s a sacrifice for her to give up time with him for us. Her impulse seems sweet, but frankly, I don’t want Matt around Jason. He smokes pot, sleeps most of the day and plays video games the rest of the time. He is not doing well in school and has no ambition. He also drives while he’s high, which I realized when I was visiting them last year.
I told my sister that it was too much to have another kid in the house, but she kept pushing. Now she wants Jason to come stay with them, which I think would be worse. How do I maintain some distance without telling her directly that I think her kid has some work to do on himself before I want him to be a role model for mine? — BAD PLAN IN CALIFORNIA
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